If you’ve ever brought up the idea of therapy to your teen and been met with a blank stare, crossed arms, or a dramatic sigh, you’re not alone. Teens are navigating intense emotional shifts, social pressure, identity development, and the chaos of hormones—so being open to therapy? That’s a big ask.
But here’s the thing: the way we bring it up matters. With the right blend of patience, honesty, and empathy, you can plant the seed for something that may help your teen in profound ways.
Normalize Mental Health—Like You Would a Physical Checkup
We don’t wait for a full-blown health crisis to take our kids to the doctor. The same should apply to mental health. Frame therapy as a proactive and supportive step—not a punishment or emergency response. You might say, “Just like we go to the dentist to take care of our teeth, therapy helps take care of our feelings and stress.” Keep it casual, factual, and judgment-free. When you treat therapy like a normal part of life, your teen is more likely to do the same.
Lead with Curiosity, Not Control
Your teen doesn’t want to be told what to do—but they do want to feel seen. Instead of delivering a lecture, invite a conversation. Try saying, “I’ve noticed you’ve seemed overwhelmed lately. What’s that been like for you?” This approach opens the door to their perspective. If therapy is mentioned, let it be an invitation—not a directive. Teens need to feel like they have some agency in the decision, even if the need for help is urgent.
Talk About Trust
One of the biggest fears teens have about therapy is that their private thoughts will somehow be used against them—especially by their parents. Explain that therapists are legally bound to keep their sessions private (with a few exceptions related to safety). Let them know they can go at their own pace, that nothing is forced, and that therapy is about building a relationship—not spilling secrets on day one.
Don’t Let “No” Mean “Never”
If your teen pushes back, it doesn’t mean they won’t ever come around. Keep the tone light and compassionate:
“Okay, you don’t have to decide now. I just want you to know it’s an option if you ever want to talk to someone who’s not me.”
When you hold space without pressure, it communicates trust—and trust lays the foundation for change.
Therapy for teens can be life-changing, but it starts with a brave (and often awkward) conversation. You don’t need to get it perfect—you just need to be willing. And that willingness can be the bridge between your child and the support they need.